the best part about winter to me is my getting to fuck around with gender presentation. i can always fuck around with it, regardless of the weather, but it’s extra special in las vegas. it’s warm somedays while others are oppressively cold and windy. i have found that this shelter cardigan from tradlands aids me in exuding the magnetism of the moon or the blaze that is the sun or neither.

although i experience dysphoria about the size of my breasts, there are plenty of reasons that i comfortably identify as a woman. but everyone has a relationship to gender; and until a stranger that doesn’t know me were to find out what mine is, regardless of how i appear, i understand and see no harm in being referred to as “they.”

i’m in my fly, exuberant, and kooky black grandpa era right now and although each look with this sweater isn’t tailored to that, i enjoy how each of these looks made me feel. sometimes i felt sexy; but there were others were i felt bold for taking a risk. my favorite risk was wearing sandals in socks. i felt so cool that day. and while i did fear dropping a coffee pot on my all white pants, you couldn’t have told me that i wasn’t an honorary member of the white stripes … or engaged to kat dennings.

i’m so glad that i was gifted this sweater. it’s slouchy, fits wonderfully on my shoulders, and is sure to keep me warm. i reach for it all the time and feel that it will see me through many ages and stages of both my style and life. it may even outlive me and i hope it does — so i can side eye my relatives from heaven if they ever think to donate it.

on that note: if you’re ever interested in making a purchase from tradlands, i have a coupon code for ya to pocket: BRYNN15. if you’re a first-time customer, you will receive 15% off your first purchase.